Well it is that time of year again!! Kristen and Katie are both playing softball and i will be coaching Kristen. Not real sure if that is a good idea or not but oh well. Kristen is not really "pumped" in her word about it now. When i signed her up she was ready to play but now she was in tears when i told her she had practice. Not real sure what is going on with that but once she got there she was okay. Katie bug will be on a team with several of her little friends so she is very "pumped".
D.J. and Hunter left for Youth Convention this morning and they were very excited about it. Both are going with an open mind ready to receive what God has in store for them. Last year at Convention was the beginning of Hunters turn around spiritually and i think that is why he is so excited to see what God has in store for him one year later. D.J. has been talking about it for months and she is in a different place spiritually going this year also, which makes me very happy.
I wanted to share this Sunday night in Church but the opportunity never really presented itself. I joke all the time about how out of 4 kids at least one will be involved in the alters, praying, praising and worshipping. But you know the odds are always in my favor b/c not one but all 4 are always up front during praise and worship, praising with hands held high. I feel very blessed.
Kristen and Katie are doing okay but I am still a little worried about Kristen. She isn't seeming upset around Joseph and I but is showing emotion with her friends. I guess that is how she is dealing with it. She was at Tammy's last night and did a search on the internet for her Daddy. She calls us in there to show us what come up, which was the obituary with the memories listed there. She did that all on her own. She sit there and was reading some of them. I guess it is her way of dealing with the situation. I am thinking about letting her post something. She has a picture of she and her dad on her myspace for her profile picture.
My mouth is watering for crawfish!!! We have a big Crawfish boil planned with some friends on Saturday and i can't wait. We will do an Easter egg hunt for the kids too. Easter Sunday will be a very busy day. Youth are doing a human Video which we have worked really hard on that morning and Kings Kids are doing a play that night, so probably no nap for me. We will be tearing down props and building them back up again all inbetween church. Very tiresome, but well worth it b/c both will make an impact on someone's life. I wish you all could be here.
Have a safe and Happy Easter Everyone!!!!!
Friday, March 21, 2008
Friday, March 7, 2008
My week!!
I know that i haven't talked to most of you about the accident, so i thought i would try and share as much as i could.
Saturday evening when we initially got the call that David had just been killed in a motorcycle accident i was hysterical. My first question to his aunt who called me was "where are the girls?" Once i found out that they were okay, i dropped the phone and told Joseph thru gasps. He was really worried about me at that point and needed to take some time to calm down himself b/c he knew he had to drive me. Within minutes the Fraleys droped Hunter off b/c he had gone with them to a wedding, and he immediately called them to come back. Before they could get back Tammy had gotten there b/c his aunt had called her house first. Once She got there she called back to find out where the girls were b/c once i heard that they were okay, i didn't pay much attention to much else. The Fraleys prayed with us b/f we left and Joseph, myself, Tammy, Hunter and D.J headed over to Davids mothers which is where the girls were. Any other time we would've went back road to get there but something (the Holy Spirit) told Joseph to go Hwy 84. If we had went the back way we would've come upon the scene and I don't think i would've been as calm as i was with the girls if i had seen that. Once we got to the girls, we found out that they didn't know anything but that there had been an accident, they didn't know that their Daddy was involved. Joseph and I along with Tammy and D.J. and Hunter had to tell them. Well Joseph did. It took Katie a minute to really break down but it took Kristen even longer and then it wasn't what i expected. It is almost as if she had a mad look on her face, mad at the world, mad at God, mad at her Daddy, i don't know. Kristen pulled herself together quickly and began to tell us that she heard the crash and called th police. His family started arriving about an hour later and the girls were acting on the emotion of them and cried all the way home. Our Childrens pastors and another friend of mine come over within minutes of us arriving home and the girls seemed to be doing fine. They actually were playing with the other kids that were there. Joseph and I got no sleep that night worring bout the girls and really having a difficult time ourselves. Sunday Kristen and Katie were in Kings Kids with me and during praise and worship Kristen was praising and raising her hands and then she disappeared into the restroom. I let her be for a few minutes but then checked on her and she was just standing in there, no tears, no emotion just in there. I asked her if she was okay and she said "I don't know" shrugged her shoulders, and that was her answer for everything i asked. I finally just said that i was going back out there and she followed me out and i went outside and had my cry. At this point i am crying worring about her and about the situation. Well i pull myself together and come back in to find the kids writing down prayer request and Katie wanted to pray for her daddy, and Kristen got mad and screamed across the table and said "you can't he is already gone" then just laid her head down, but still never shed a tear. Belinda (children's pastor) turned service over to me and took Kristen to her office and she said that Kristen broke down with her. Belinda come out a few minutes later but no Kristen so i assumed she wanted to be alone, but no she pulled herself together and come out and you never even knew she had been crying. She thinks she is too tough to cry. Anyway everything seemed to be normal routine for them. I did send them to school Monday and Kristen was told things we didn't want her to ever know (details of wreck) but they said the newspaper said these things which they didn't so i was able to steer her away from some of those thoughts. the girls and I went to Davids parents house on Monday evening just to spend some time and on the way out there Kristen asked me to go by the crash site, and i wouldn't b/c i didn't think she could handle it. Well when we got ready to leave his moms they were headed over there and Kristen asked again and after much talk of trying to convince her she didn't need to she said she wanted to. So i followed them over there with the girls and Kristen walked right over to it and run her fingers thru the blood where her daddy's head laid. She is so strong, she still never shed a tear, she got back into the truck and just said "moma that was alot of blood" and of course i said "yea it was". I explained to them then that it was going to be closed casket and they asked what it meant and i told them that they wouldn't be able to see him in there. They both immediatey ask "why" so when i got home Joseph and I tried to explain why without going into too much detail. My girls are smart and asked questions we weren't comfortable with but Joseph handled them well. Wednesday b/f the visitation i checked them out of school and we went to get supplies to make something to put in casket and Kristen saw a motorcycle and asked if I would paint it like his bike. So I did and Katie got a bouquet of roses. They each made cards for him. We got to the church and i was almost in a panic attack as we walked up, there were a ton of people there and of course everyone had their eyes on the girls. They each walked in after being stopped by several people but walked right up and layed all their stuff up there. Kristen did very slowly but she didn't shed a tear and neither did Katie. Katie follows Kristens lead. Joseph and I went and sat and talked with some very good friends of Davids while the girls just visited and mingled emotionless. I don't get it!!! Well the funeral was the same way, just no emotions at all. Before the service the casket was opened for the family and i wouldn't allow the girls to go in. I really in my heart think that i made the right decision. Ms. Kim (his mother) said it did look like him from the nose down but from the nose up was in pretty bad shape. It made Kim feel better to know that he was in there but I still don't believe my girls needed to see that. Kim, his dad and his sisters were at the wreck scene and saw him before he was cleaned up and at his worst so the damage was done to them already, my girls were still blind to that and i wanted it to stay that way. "I can only imagine", "I will see you in the morning", "Amazing Grace" and "The Dance" were all sang or played and that was pretty emotional for Joseph and I but the girls still nothing. The burial was in Kingston in a very beautiful cemetary and it was very emotional there. I walked over to the girls and let them know they could get some flowers from the spray and both did but just wasn't emotional at all. I broke down just helping them get their flower. I let them go back to the church with his sister so that they wouldn't have us to lean on so much and would be with the family. Joseph and I went back to get them around 5:00 and they are going to his sisters today for the weekend. Please keep remembering them in your prayers for the weeks to come.
Saturday evening when we initially got the call that David had just been killed in a motorcycle accident i was hysterical. My first question to his aunt who called me was "where are the girls?" Once i found out that they were okay, i dropped the phone and told Joseph thru gasps. He was really worried about me at that point and needed to take some time to calm down himself b/c he knew he had to drive me. Within minutes the Fraleys droped Hunter off b/c he had gone with them to a wedding, and he immediately called them to come back. Before they could get back Tammy had gotten there b/c his aunt had called her house first. Once She got there she called back to find out where the girls were b/c once i heard that they were okay, i didn't pay much attention to much else. The Fraleys prayed with us b/f we left and Joseph, myself, Tammy, Hunter and D.J headed over to Davids mothers which is where the girls were. Any other time we would've went back road to get there but something (the Holy Spirit) told Joseph to go Hwy 84. If we had went the back way we would've come upon the scene and I don't think i would've been as calm as i was with the girls if i had seen that. Once we got to the girls, we found out that they didn't know anything but that there had been an accident, they didn't know that their Daddy was involved. Joseph and I along with Tammy and D.J. and Hunter had to tell them. Well Joseph did. It took Katie a minute to really break down but it took Kristen even longer and then it wasn't what i expected. It is almost as if she had a mad look on her face, mad at the world, mad at God, mad at her Daddy, i don't know. Kristen pulled herself together quickly and began to tell us that she heard the crash and called th police. His family started arriving about an hour later and the girls were acting on the emotion of them and cried all the way home. Our Childrens pastors and another friend of mine come over within minutes of us arriving home and the girls seemed to be doing fine. They actually were playing with the other kids that were there. Joseph and I got no sleep that night worring bout the girls and really having a difficult time ourselves. Sunday Kristen and Katie were in Kings Kids with me and during praise and worship Kristen was praising and raising her hands and then she disappeared into the restroom. I let her be for a few minutes but then checked on her and she was just standing in there, no tears, no emotion just in there. I asked her if she was okay and she said "I don't know" shrugged her shoulders, and that was her answer for everything i asked. I finally just said that i was going back out there and she followed me out and i went outside and had my cry. At this point i am crying worring about her and about the situation. Well i pull myself together and come back in to find the kids writing down prayer request and Katie wanted to pray for her daddy, and Kristen got mad and screamed across the table and said "you can't he is already gone" then just laid her head down, but still never shed a tear. Belinda (children's pastor) turned service over to me and took Kristen to her office and she said that Kristen broke down with her. Belinda come out a few minutes later but no Kristen so i assumed she wanted to be alone, but no she pulled herself together and come out and you never even knew she had been crying. She thinks she is too tough to cry. Anyway everything seemed to be normal routine for them. I did send them to school Monday and Kristen was told things we didn't want her to ever know (details of wreck) but they said the newspaper said these things which they didn't so i was able to steer her away from some of those thoughts. the girls and I went to Davids parents house on Monday evening just to spend some time and on the way out there Kristen asked me to go by the crash site, and i wouldn't b/c i didn't think she could handle it. Well when we got ready to leave his moms they were headed over there and Kristen asked again and after much talk of trying to convince her she didn't need to she said she wanted to. So i followed them over there with the girls and Kristen walked right over to it and run her fingers thru the blood where her daddy's head laid. She is so strong, she still never shed a tear, she got back into the truck and just said "moma that was alot of blood" and of course i said "yea it was". I explained to them then that it was going to be closed casket and they asked what it meant and i told them that they wouldn't be able to see him in there. They both immediatey ask "why" so when i got home Joseph and I tried to explain why without going into too much detail. My girls are smart and asked questions we weren't comfortable with but Joseph handled them well. Wednesday b/f the visitation i checked them out of school and we went to get supplies to make something to put in casket and Kristen saw a motorcycle and asked if I would paint it like his bike. So I did and Katie got a bouquet of roses. They each made cards for him. We got to the church and i was almost in a panic attack as we walked up, there were a ton of people there and of course everyone had their eyes on the girls. They each walked in after being stopped by several people but walked right up and layed all their stuff up there. Kristen did very slowly but she didn't shed a tear and neither did Katie. Katie follows Kristens lead. Joseph and I went and sat and talked with some very good friends of Davids while the girls just visited and mingled emotionless. I don't get it!!! Well the funeral was the same way, just no emotions at all. Before the service the casket was opened for the family and i wouldn't allow the girls to go in. I really in my heart think that i made the right decision. Ms. Kim (his mother) said it did look like him from the nose down but from the nose up was in pretty bad shape. It made Kim feel better to know that he was in there but I still don't believe my girls needed to see that. Kim, his dad and his sisters were at the wreck scene and saw him before he was cleaned up and at his worst so the damage was done to them already, my girls were still blind to that and i wanted it to stay that way. "I can only imagine", "I will see you in the morning", "Amazing Grace" and "The Dance" were all sang or played and that was pretty emotional for Joseph and I but the girls still nothing. The burial was in Kingston in a very beautiful cemetary and it was very emotional there. I walked over to the girls and let them know they could get some flowers from the spray and both did but just wasn't emotional at all. I broke down just helping them get their flower. I let them go back to the church with his sister so that they wouldn't have us to lean on so much and would be with the family. Joseph and I went back to get them around 5:00 and they are going to his sisters today for the weekend. Please keep remembering them in your prayers for the weeks to come.
Monday, March 3, 2008
Pray for my Girls
Most of you know the situation my family is faced with right now but for those who don't my girls lost their father in a motorcycle accident on Saturday night. My ex husband David Dunson was very important to my babies (Kristen and Katie). My husband Joseph and I are extremly worried about them in this situation. Kristen is showing no emotion at all. It is almost as if she is mad. Maybe at the world, maybe at him, i don't know but it isn't good. Katie is talking about it but i really don't think the reality of it has hit her yet. Joseph and I haven't gotten much sleep. For me b/c i keep hearing the phone call about the accident replaying in my head along with some comments the girls have made that brakes my heart. For Joseph, i think he is just really worried about the girls as well as myself. He is awesome, he has been so great and understanding. His compasion is beyond belief in his situation, his reflection of Jesus is shinning right now. Please keep us as well has the rest of his family in your prayers. There is nothing i can say or do to help and as a mother it is the hardest thing in the world for me not to be able to make my babies feel better.
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